There was a long silence, as I waited for a push, or worse still, a punch from Tom. But it never came. So I kept my head low, looked up at Tom, held out my hand and said “Thanks for taking the time to talk with me, Tom.” He stood there looking at my hand. Then something amazing happened. He took my hand, squeezed it, and apologised for the way he acted. He said that was an example of what he was working through, the anger just appearing out of nowhere. Then to my surprise, he sat back down to talk again.